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Imposter Syndrome And How To Get Over It



Hardly a day goes by now without someone referring to Imposter Syndrome on either LinkedIn or Facebook. What is Imposter Syndrome and why is everybody talking about it?  First of all its important to note that it isn’t actually a syndrome and it’s not a mental health issue either. Imposter syndrome is that feeling of not being good enough, fear of being found out and feeling like a fraud.  


The irony is it’s most common in successful and high achieving individuals.  

Although common, imposter syndrome can be crippling in as much as it will hold you back from fulfilling your true potential.  Not dealing with or overcoming imposter syndrome would be like driving a Porsche but never going over 30 miles an hour.  


What Imposter Syndrome feels like

You spot a job you want to apply for, you get an interview and they give you the job.  Suddenly you are overwhelmed with fear. You believe you didn’t deserve to get the job and that they find out you cannot actually do it and they’ll realise they made a big mistake.

Someone pays you a compliment and it makes you feel uncomfortable.  They tell you that you are good at something or compliment you on a talent or skill, you don’t believe it and tell yourself they only said this because they don’t know you very well.


Somebody asks you to deliver a service or project and although you say yes you worry that you won’t be able to deliver it.


You submit a piece of work and wait for the client to come back to you with a complaint because you have convinced yourself you didnt do a very good job and they will want their money back.


Sound familiar? 

Banishing imposter syndrome means resolving your self limiting beliefs.  These are things we belief are facts about ourselves but actually they are fears. Rationalising between facts and thoughts is easier said than done but like all things it comes with practice.  


One of the techniques I use with my clients is the evidence testing technique.  This involves making a list of all the negative beliefs we have about ourselves, the ones that are holding us back and then looking for five pieces of evidence to back them up.  


For instance, if we use the first example “You spot a job you want to apply for, you get an interview and they give you the job.  Suddenly you are overwhelmed with fear. You believe you didn’t deserve to get the job and that they find out you cannot actually do it and they’ll realise they made a big mistake” What is the evidence that the recruiters made a mistake when they first read your application, looked over your CV or covering letter, then spoke to you at interview, then made the decision from all the candidates that they saw? 


Using the second example “Somebody asks you to deliver a service or project and although you say yes you worry that you won’t be able to deliver it.” what is the evidence that you cannot deliver the project.  First I would ask you to look at your skills, experience and qualifications and demonstrate why you might not be able to do the job.  


Getting you where you want to be 

When we struggle with Imposter Syndrome it is really useful to challenge our thoughts in this way as we soon realise there is very little evidence to support the belief.  When you realise there is no evidence, you start to let go of the fears. Once you accept that it is fear and not fact, you can begin to think about the steps you need to take to get where you want to go.

If you want to get your confidence back, feel motivated and be able to take action you can get a 60 minute overcoming Imposter Syndrome session with me for just £99.


During this coaching call we will use the 60 minute video session to; 

- Understand what’s causing you to have Imposter Syndrome 

- Breakdown your Imposter Syndrome

- Restore your confidence 

- Get you motivated and excited for what’s next

- Identify the actions you want to take now your Imposter Syndrome is history 


If you are experiencing Imposter Syndrome, feel like it is destroying your belief in yourself, draining your confidence and motivation then DM me to book one of these powerful sessions.

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